About Tongli

In my work, I often support people who find it difficult to make

sense of their emotions.

At times, this may feel like not quite knowing what you are experiencing, or not having the words to express what is happening within.

This can include children whose feelings are expressed through behaviour, adolescents navigating pressure, identity, or emotional intensity, or adults who feel stuck, disconnected, or are carrying more than they can sustain.

Rather than focusing on labels, I am more interested in how these experiences are lived and expressed. I see counselling as a space where nothing needs to be rushed or forced into explanation.Not everything needs to be understood immediately, and not everything needs to be spoken. Sometimes, it is enough to begin by noticing what is already there.

My path into counselling has also been shaped by my own lived experience. Many years ago, as a parent navigating anxiety and uncertainty, I experienced moments of feeling overwhelmed and alone. What made a difference was not being given quick answers,
but being met with understanding, patience, and genuine presence.

This continues to influence how I work with others —with care, steadiness, and a respect for each person’s pace, without pushing the process forward.

My name is Tongli, and I am a counsellor based in Melbourne,
working with children, adolescents, and adults.

My work is grounded in a person-centred approach, and integrates expressive therapies, sandplay therapy and clay field therapy. I am particularly drawn to ways of working that allow experience to take form before it is explained —through image, symbol, movement, or the body. This can be especially important when words feel limited,
or when something feels too complex to describe.

If this way of working resonates with you, you are welcome to get in touch.